I’m happy to share my discussion with Andrea Weckerle about her new book, Civility in The Digital Age: How Companies and People Can Triumph Over Haters, Trolls, Bullies and Other Jerks.
Andrea is founder and president of CiviliNation, a nonprofit that takes a stand against online hostility and cyberbullying. She earned her law degree at the University of Richmond, and underwent extensive mediation training. She also holds a Master of Arts degree in Public Relations/Conflict Analysis and Resolution from George Mason University. After law school, Andrea worked within the Legal division of Ernst & Young, where she helped design alternative dispute resolution systems for Fortune 500 companies. Before founding CiviliNation, she ran her own boutique communications consultancy. Read more about Andrea here.
[00:01] Welcome and introduction
[01:50] Interview begins with a discussion of why Andrea wrote this book and how she approached the topic.
[02:55] Andrea Weckerle’s definition of civility
[04:22] Situations where civility is absent; bullying for sport. Andrea discusses content-based conflict; personality-based conflict; power-based conflict and identity-based conflict.
[07:30] Recognizing and managing anger; best practices for civility and for protecting ourselves against those who aren’t civil online; problem has to be approached from various angles, including digital literacy; value of knowing your own conflict style.
[11:00] Knowing what your goal is; don’t feed the trolls; what to do when someone says something untrue about you online
[12:35] How you take corrective action matters; if, when, how
[15:45] The value of saying “I’m sorry.”
[18:25] The importance of digital literacy; we should be teaching this to our children
[21:20] Checking our biases and beliefs
[22:15] Donna believes those who most need this book will not read it; Andrea wants to help ensure that we are equipped to deal with them.
[23:45] Holding people accountable online; helping friends when they are attacked
[24:55] Andrea encourages comments by those who’ve read the book.
[28:50] Where to send comments; email donna at trafcom dot com or comment here on the show blog.
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